Mental Weight Loss

Ok so now that we know we need to hold our selves accountable for our actions- both positive and negative what’s next. I believe that there is still more mental work to do. I know you are thinking but I just want to lose weight and look better. Isn’t that a physical thing? Yes the weight loss is a physical thing but that is where it stops. There are so many mental things that need to be work on. The questions you need to ask yourself are: why am I not where I want to be? How did I get here? How can I not let this happen again? Also why am I not happy with how I look? Many times we get caught up in what the media says we are supposed to look like. Not everyone can look like a model- and let’s face it when you see things in print how many of those people actually look that way. I know we have all heard of photo shop.
The other side of it- for those of you who have been working hard and have been able to get some of that weight off- now what? When you look in the mirror what do you see? I hope you see the beautiful woman you are? But my guess you see the person you are not. You most likely see all of your flaws- you see the places that are not tone enough, the places that are not lean enough. Stop it!!! You need to see how far you have come and see yourself for all of the hard work you have done. No one is where they want to be- even those beautiful models and for you competitors those IFBB pro’s you see on stage and in the magazine. If you were able to have a private one-on-one conversation with them you would find out that they too have places on their body they don’t like. If goes back to accepting that you are who you are and it is ok.
To sum things up: when you are working on changing yourself physically don’t just look at the physical part of the change also look at the mental part of it. If you do not the change will not last.

Accountability

You can ask my clients this has been my go to word of late. To me this is one of the most important things in life. I strive to teach me children this, even at a young age. As Americans I believe we have lost the ability to hold ourselves accountable for our situations. I mean look at the oil spill. So many fingers were being pointed when a solution should have been worked on. I believe that we have to hold ourselves accountable for our lives. Stop blaming others for our situations. Yes there are things that are out of our control. If someone is suppose to give you a check and they don’t that is not your fault- but how you handle it is. Or if you can’t get your cardio in because the babysitter did not come home- yes your baby sitter baled on you but your cardio is not their problem- what will you do now to fix it? If you are overweight, or unhappy with where you are in your physical fitness what are you going to do about it? Are you busy- yes? We all are. Maybe you will have to get up earlier in order to get everything in, or maybe you will not clean the house as much. I say either except that fact that you are not where you want to be or change what you are doing and get it done!!


I do think that it goes both ways- he need to hold ourselves accountable for the positive also. So many times I hear someone say “you look great.” And the response is “oh I guess but I still need to lose more.” Come on people if someone is taking the time to complement you accept it. You have been working hard and maybe you are not at your goal- but you have made changes. Sometimes we cannot see it on our selves but others can. So accept and take the responsibility for the hard work you have been doing. Answer “yes, thank you I have been working hard.”